18 May

When Chronic Illness Changes Everything: How to Cope

Trudy Jacobsen | Chronic illness What are you struggling with? Cancer, chronic pain, diabetes, chronic fatigue, lupus, or migraines? Maybe your illness is yet unnamed but just as life-changing? Pain that persists and twists your world changes who you are, how you operate, and how you relate. Regardless of your condition’s name, the struggle to adjust is real and, often, the reality hurts. Still, you can cope. Just because...

06 May

Shame Locks You into Addiction – Shame Resilience Opens the Door to Recovery

Trudy Jacobsen | Addiction Addiction typically revolves around some type of harmful substance. Yet, the most toxic part of addiction is equally as harmful as any substance—shame. Commonly mistaken for guilt, shame is what can keep a person locked into addiction. In other words, it’s the nefarious force at work to keep you stuck—an arm’s length away from the reprieve of recovery. Still, many people approach the...

29 Apr

Why Self-Awareness and Emotional Maturity Are So Important in Relationships

Trudy Jacobsen | Relationships Circulating in today’s society is a term known as emotional intelligence. This concept has not only proven to improve all sorts of relationships—friendships, professional, romantic—but it helps people find true joy as well. For this reason, many of us strive for it without really pegging a title on our pursuit. Although the idea of emotional intelligence may sound incredibly sophisticated and complex (and possibly...

29 Apr

Creating a Great Relationship: How to Identify the Results You want to Create

Trudy Jacobsen | Relationship Counselling Romantic relationships tend to be a bit scattershot—going with the flow. Yet, creating a successful relationship requires more deliberate action than most people assume. Rather than to simply rely on love or passion to lead the way, couples who set relationship goals often find the most long-term success. To begin, it’s vital to know the results you want to create in the relationship....

29 Apr

9 Ways to Improve Communication Skills in Your Relationship

Trudy Jacobsen | Relationship Counselling Have you ever noticed that it’s often the most important people in our lives that we tend to treat the worst? There are hundreds of things we could blame for this. Yet, most of the time it’s simply that we fall in a rut of familiarity. Plus, in the midst of our daily routines, we can easily get stuck in a pattern...

26 Apr

Perfectionism: Excessive Worries About What Others Think vs Healthy Striving for Excellence

Trudy Jacobsen | Perfectionism It’s only natural to feel a bit of worry about what others think of you. Especially when you’ve possibly got a snag of broccoli sticking out of your teeth or you forgot to wash your jeans before casual Friday at work. Yet, aside from mouth-invading vegetation and dirty pants, this sort of worry should be few and far between. Except that, for many people,...

21 Mar

Fighting to Control Your Emotions? 4 Practical Tips to Deal with Depression

Trudy Jacobsen | Depression Some emotions such as joy or inspiration are wonderful to experience. We usually welcome them with open arms. Conversely, we often meet emotions such as sadness or frustration with a large “please leave now” sign. These feelings can quickly drag us down into the pits of despair, impacting our bodies and outlook on life. When these intense depression symptoms take hold, overcoming them...

16 Mar

It’s okay not to be okay! Five practical ways to support someone facing a loss.

Trudy Jacobsen | Grief and loss If you’re like many people, you’re okay letting the shoulder of your shirt get tear-soaked. You’re a good person, and being that “rock” is honourable. You’re willing to love and care for those who are facing a loss, even without knowing exactly how. Yet, when that same bereaved person stops sniffling and begins to speak, you may start to feel really uncertain...

15 Mar

How to Make a Conscious Effort to Understand and Meet your Partner’s Needs

Trudy Jacobsen | Relationships Being in a successful relationship takes purposeful work. Sometimes connecting with each other comes more naturally. Other days, it may be very hard to find a path to your partner. For this reason, it’s important to make a conscious effort to understand your partner’s needs. Doing so makes connecting possible. But first, it’s important to understand what “connecting” really is. Most people assume it simply means...

06 Mar

How Emotion Focused Therapy Can Improve Your Family Relationships

Trudy Jacobsen | Relationships | Family Being a part of a family unit can be both rewarding and challenging, all at the same time. On one hand, your family consists of irreplaceable bonds you’ll keep throughout your lifetime. On the other hand, there are days when the very same people drive you up the wall. Such is family life. It’s sometimes beautiful and sometimes messy. To improve your family...