08 Oct

Are You an Enmeshed Parent? – 4 Ways to Tell

If you’re a parent, the relationship you have with your child is likely the closest of all your relationships. However, there is a line between a close relationship and an unhealthily close relationship. Enmeshed parenting is when a parent/child relationship is seen as more important than the individual themselves. In other words, you define yourself more by your relationship with your child than as an autonomous person. Enmeshed relationships are very similar to co-dependent...

08 Oct

Healthy Striving for Personal Excellence Can Conquer Perfectionistic Concerns

Trudy Jacobsen If you find yourself overwhelmed by perfectionist concerns, it may feel as if nothing you do will ever be quite right. Whether it’s your performance in school, in the workplace, with your friends or at home with your family—perfectionism can lead to chronic disappointment and unhappiness. It may also negatively affect those around you. You may never be able to fully stop striving for perfection. And you don’t have to give...

10 Sep

Find Joy in Life! – How You Can Overcome Depression and Suicidal Thoughts

Trudy Jacobsen When depression takes hold of you, it can feel crushing. Depressive and suicidal thoughts can be extremely overwhelming, and you may be left feeling as though you are powerless to fight back. Depression often makes even simple tasks feel impossible. When you are depressed, it may be difficult to get out of bed, shower, go to work, or even leave the house. Unsurprisingly, self-care is so important in the fight...

03 Sep

Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) for Couples – Treating Relational Trauma

Trudy Jacobsen At the foundation of every healthy relationship lies an infrastructure of security. The bricks that make up the core of this base include trust, attachment, love, and the confidence that your partner has your back. Knowing you can count on someone to be in your corner is an irreplaceable feeling. But what happens when that person fails you? For instance, maybe you take an emotional fall only to find that...

29 Aug

7 Practical Ways to Balance the Emotional Effects of Debt

Trudy Jacobsen The impact of a financial debt goes far beyond your wallet. Your debt can carry an emotional burden that can weigh just as heavily on your psyche. What if the debt will take a long time to pay off? Will you ever be debt-free again? How will this debt impact your financial future? Do you earn enough money to make your payments? It’s no wonder that debt can have a tremendous emotional impact...

22 Aug

Can Exercise Help Improve Your Sleep? – What to Keep in Mind

Trudy Jacobsen Have you been feeling overly stressed lately? Do you find yourself staying awake at night and unable to get any real rest? In our busy world that demands so much of our time and focus, it is not hard to see why our sleep often suffers. When we spend our waking hours in a constant state of “on-the-go,” it can be hard to shut our bodies and...

18 May

When Chronic Illness Changes Everything: How to Cope

Trudy Jacobsen | Chronic illness What are you struggling with? Cancer, chronic pain, diabetes, chronic fatigue, lupus, or migraines? Maybe your illness is yet unnamed but just as life-changing? Pain that persists and twists your world changes who you are, how you operate, and how you relate. Regardless of your condition’s name, the struggle to adjust is real and, often, the reality hurts. Still, you can cope. Just because...

06 May

Shame Locks You into Addiction – Shame Resilience Opens the Door to Recovery

Trudy Jacobsen | Addiction Addiction typically revolves around some type of harmful substance. Yet, the most toxic part of addiction is equally as harmful as any substance—shame. Commonly mistaken for guilt, shame is what can keep a person locked into addiction. In other words, it’s the nefarious force at work to keep you stuck—an arm’s length away from the reprieve of recovery. Still, many people approach the...

29 Apr

Why Self-Awareness and Emotional Maturity Are So Important in Relationships

Trudy Jacobsen | Relationships Circulating in today’s society is a term known as emotional intelligence. This concept has not only proven to improve all sorts of relationships—friendships, professional, romantic—but it helps people find true joy as well. For this reason, many of us strive for it without really pegging a title on our pursuit. Although the idea of emotional intelligence may sound incredibly sophisticated and complex (and possibly...

29 Apr

Creating a Great Relationship: How to Identify the Results You want to Create

Trudy Jacobsen | Relationship Counselling Romantic relationships tend to be a bit scattershot—going with the flow. Yet, creating a successful relationship requires more deliberate action than most people assume. Rather than to simply rely on love or passion to lead the way, couples who set relationship goals often find the most long-term success. To begin, it’s vital to know the results you want to create in the relationship....